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\u201e\u017bADNA MI\u0141O\u015a\u0106 NIE B\u0118DZIE TRWA\u0141A I WZRASTA\u0141A, JE\u017bELI KOCHAJ\u0104CE SI\u0118 OSOBY NIE SP\u0118DZAJ\u0104 RAZEM CZASU\u201d.
<\/em><\/strong>Jan Budziaszek \u201eDo nieba idzie si\u0119\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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Ka\u017cdy cz\u0142owiek w charakterystyczny dla siebie spos\u00f3b okazuje mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 i \u201eodbiera\u201d j\u0105, tzn. czuje si\u0119 kochany (b\u0105d\u017a niekochany) w zale\u017cno\u015bci od konkretnych dzia\u0142a\u0144 wsp\u00f3\u0142ma\u0142\u017conka (b\u0105d\u017a braku tych dzia\u0142a\u0144). Koncepcj\u0119 j\u0119zyk\u00f3w mi\u0142o\u015bci (bo tak nazywa si\u0119 ten indywidualny spos\u00f3b okazywania i \u201eodbierania\u201d mi\u0142o\u015bci) opisa\u0142 G. Chapman (Chapman G., 2014). Wyr\u00f3\u017cniamy pi\u0119\u0107 j\u0119zyk\u00f3w mi\u0142o\u015bci:<\/p>\n

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Czas<\/h3>\n

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Dla osoby m\u00f3wi\u0105cej tym j\u0119zykiem postawa mi\u0142o\u015bci przejawia si\u0119 w przebywaniu ze sob\u0105 (po\u015bwi\u0119caniu uwagi, robieniu czego\u015b wsp\u00f3lnie).<\/p>\n

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Prezenty<\/h3>\n

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Dla osoby m\u00f3wi\u0105cej tym j\u0119zykiem postawa mi\u0142o\u015bci kojarzy si\u0119 z otrzymywaniem prezent\u00f3w (nie chodzi o drogie podarunki, raczej o dow\u00f3d pami\u0119ci i symboliczne okazywanie w ten spos\u00f3b mi\u0142o\u015bci).<\/p>\n

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Afirmuj\u0105ce s\u0142owa<\/h3>\n

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Dla osoby m\u00f3wi\u0105cej tym j\u0119zykiem mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 jest r\u00f3wnoznaczna z docenieniem i afirmowaniem (chwaleniem). Mi\u0142e s\u0142owa s\u0105 dla takiej osoby potrzebne jak tlen dla cz\u0142owieka.<\/p>\n

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Dotyk<\/h3>\n

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Wsp\u00f3\u0142ma\u0142\u017conek pos\u0142uguj\u0105cy si\u0119 tym j\u0119zykiem potrzebuje dotyku i kontaktu fizycznego (trzymania za r\u0119k\u0119, obejmowania, przytulania, wsp\u00f3\u0142\u017cycia).<\/p>\n

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Praktyczna pomoc<\/h3>\n

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Osoba m\u00f3wi\u0105ca tym j\u0119zykiem czuje si\u0119 kochana, gdy okazuje jej si\u0119 praktyczn\u0105 pomoc (mycie naczy\u0144, odkurzanie mieszkania itp.).<\/p>\n

G. Chapman twierdzi, \u017ce poznanie j\u0119zyka mi\u0142o\u015bci wsp\u00f3\u0142ma\u0142\u017conka i pos\u0142ugiwanie si\u0119 nim w codzienno\u015bci jest recept\u0105 na udane i szcz\u0119\u015bliwe ma\u0142\u017ce\u0144stwo. Poniewa\u017c m\u0105\u017c i \u017cona zazwyczaj maj\u0105 inne j\u0119zyki mi\u0142o\u015bci, to intuicyjnie m\u00f3wi\u0105 w swoim j\u0119zyku mi\u0142o\u015bci do wsp\u00f3\u0142ma\u0142\u017conka. Tymczasem kluczem do zdobycia serca m\u0119\u017ca\/\u017cony jest m\u00f3wienie w JEGO j\u0119zyku mi\u0142o\u015bci! Przyk\u0142adowo: j\u0119zykiem mi\u0142o\u015bci \u017cony s\u0105 \u201eafirmuj\u0105ce s\u0142owa\u201d, a m\u0105\u017c odbiera mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107 poprzez po\u015bwi\u0119cony \u201eczas\u201d. \u017bona mo\u017ce komplementowa\u0107 m\u0119\u017ca i wspiera\u0107 s\u0142ownie jego dzia\u0142ania, r\u00f3wnocze\u015bnie rozmawiaj\u0105c z nim 5 minut dziennie. M\u0105\u017c nie b\u0119dzie si\u0119 czu\u0142 kochany, bo potrzebuje czego\u015b innego. Nie rozumie j\u0119zyka mi\u0142o\u015bci, jakim pos\u0142uguje si\u0119 \u017cona. I odwrotnie: m\u0119\u017cczyzna ci\u0105gle chce spacerowa\u0107 z ukochan\u0105, rozmawia\u0107, wszystko robi\u0107 razem. \u017bona czuje si\u0119 niekochana i nieszcz\u0119\u015bliwa, bo nie s\u0142yszy komplement\u00f3w i wspieraj\u0105cych s\u0142\u00f3w. Nie rozumie j\u0119zyka mi\u0142o\u015bci, jakim pos\u0142uguje si\u0119 m\u0105\u017c.<\/p>\n

Zach\u0119camy do odkrycia swojego j\u0119zyka mi\u0142o\u015bci i j\u0119zyka mi\u0142o\u015bci, jakim m\u00f3wi nasz wsp\u00f3\u0142ma\u0142\u017conek na warsztatach dla ma\u0142\u017ce\u0144stw<\/a> lub indywidualnie, zg\u0142\u0119biaj\u0105c ksi\u0105\u017ck\u0119 G. Chapmana.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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